Inner Secure Base

[Adapted from Tara Bennett-Goleman, Mind Whispering, 2013] In 2004 I heard Phil Shaver present to the Dalai Lama on John Bowlby’s model of a ‘secure base’. I had an epiphany that we can each turn toward an “inner” secure base.  Bowlby, one of the most influential forces in child development, said that caretakers create a […]

Cultivating Connection In Relationships

Tech devices and wandering minds have made it harder to connect, but nurturing relationships can help strengthen the brain’s circuits for inner calm and kindness, according to psychologist Daniel Goleman and psychotherapist Tara Bennett-Goleman. Omega: Humans are naturally social and wired to connect. Why are we having so many challenges with connection these days? Tara: I think these challenges to connection have […]

How Labyrinth Walking Can Clear the Mind

Tara Bennett-Goleman shares a personal story of how the ancient practice of labyrinth walking offered her a way to open her mind and leave her cares and thoughts behind. In a small town in the Berkshire Mountains I came across a large field surrounded by woods that holds a meticulously designed labyrinth, a smaller version […]

Emotional Intelligence & the Wisdom of Awareness

Best-selling authors Daniel Goleman and Tara Bennett-Goleman talk about the importance of emotional wisdom in the modern world.  Omega: Is emotional intelligence something we’re born with? Are there practices we can do to build our emotional intelligence? Daniel: Each of us, more or less, has some degree of natural, innate talent when it comes to emotional intelligence—we’re […]

The Horse Sense That Builds Trust

As I was growing up, I often found myself in the role of family peacemaker and wondered what it would take for people to focus more on the ways that connected them rather than divided them — not just in families, but in communities and the workplace, too. The more I thought about it, the […]

How the Mind Can Heal the Heart

Jill Suttie interviews Dan and Tara Goleman. Originally posted at GreaterGood. Jill Suttie: What is mind whispering exactly? Tara Bennett-Goleman: Mind whispering is an integration of Eastern and Western psychologies, the neuroscience of habit change, and principles from horse whispering, creating a new map of the emotional mind. It draws on mindfulness, cognitive therapy, and Buddhist […]

The Universal Language: Tara Bennett-Goleman interviews Sinhalese peacemaker A.T. Ariyaratne

Addressing the concept of psychological modes of connection and disconnection, one of the topics in Mind Whispering, Tara Bennett-Goleman speaks with the “Gandhi of Sri Lanka,” A.T. Ariyaratne about his experiences with nonviolent conflict resolution, overcoming group differences, and his personal motivations and insights into the power of broad political and socioeconomic reformation grounded in collective […]